2/28/2026

T, Mi Amor,

I miss the fact that I haven’t written to you in a while. And what better way to restart this habit than today, which is just one day shy of 4 months of us being together. 4 months. Can you believe that? I mean that’s a 120 days. Thats a third of a year. Wow… there is this weird juxtaposition that is happening as I wrote that. On the one hand, it seems like it was just yesterday that I first saw you, crossing the street, in that green top and light blue jeans and saw you for the first time. My heart had just stopped there for a second when I first saw you. Not just my heart, I think the entire world had stopped and it was just you that moved, with the grace of a swan, the elegance of a giraffe (I know you are thinking – wait, what!? A giraffe? Where did that come from). But I see the slender slope from your shoulders over to your neck and your cute little head and it reminds me of how gracefully long and elegant a giraffe’s neck is. So yea. Aaaaand that moment there, I was smitten. As Justin would say – picture perfect you don’t need no filters… gorgeous make em drop dead you a killer.

You know I’m a romantic fool. The operative word there being fool. Because you can’t fall hopelessly in love if you aren’t ready to look completely foolish. And while i will say that I love love, I think nothing beats the feeling of falling in love. You know every now and then I have read our initial conversations back from the Reddit DMs and the Signal chat, I just see both of us just falling hopelessly in love. I know you told me once – god, why is it you do that, why can’t you live in the moment? And I finally found out why. So one of the things I have got back to doing is listening to this podcast called Modern Wisdom on the long solo drives. And in one of the episodes the guest was James Sexton, a very prominent divorce laywer from New York. And he talks about relationships and how to make it work. When i first heard of him, I was like – what? a divorce lawyer who gives relationship advice? But if you really think about it, it’s perfect because he’s seen every single relationship break on the spectrum. And who better to tell you how to not let your relationship die but the person who has buried thousands that did. Blup Blup (2x fast forward)… so in this latest episode he was talking about how people in relationships can communicate when something changes (like how to broach topics like – hey why dont we have sex as much as we used to any more or why dont i get blowjobs as much as i used to.. stuff like that). And in that conversation he said something really thoughtful. He was like – you know sometimes how couples would have come out for a social date, and they may have just had a fight before they left and you can clearly see they are unregulated and in a bad mood, he said even at that time if you go and ask them – hey how did you guys meet. Or for that matter ask any couple how they met, you can immediately see how they soften up. Because they relive those moments on how they ended up becoming each other’s favorite people in the world… out of 8 billion people on this planet.

So I want you to try this. You know those moments when you get super annoyed… like those moments when even my breathing can set you off? In those moments, just go open up and scroll up a bunch on signal or Reddit DM and just read it. I bet you my bottom dollar that you will cheer up immediately. Keep this in your back pocket and try it for me. A few times later it just becomes so awesome that you just feel like – wait, what was i even mad about. Papa i just snapped at him a few minutes ago I need to go back and love him a little bit cause he is my favorite person in the world. 😉

I titled today’s story Primavera. A little context on why. So we’ve already established how foolish (or stupid) I am. So every now and then I will go into my favorite songs and shuffle it randomly and say to myself – ok universe give me a sign about T and I. And the last time I did that it shuffled to Primavera by Ludovico Einaudi. It’s a lovely instrumental piece. So I was like – ummm what does it mean. And I asked ChatGPT what Primavera meant. and it said”

“Primavera” in Italian means “spring” 🌸

It refers to the season, the time of renewal, blooming flowers, warmer days, and everything waking back up after winter.

So yea, a perfect way to summarise what I wanted to write about today. There’s such an amazing thing that has happened between us in the past 4 months. You know when I picked you up yesterday and you hugged me and you said – are we trauma bonded? And I said – no baby, we are pair bonded. There’s a huge difference between the two. And I think the most beautiful thing that we did was to learn how to love each other. It is such an underrated philosophy. You know you see the movies and the TV shows and they all romanticize falling madly in love and about how both lovers overcome adversity and then live happily ever after. But that aint reality is it. A real relationship, real love, takes a lot of work. I think most people get into a relationship expecting to just live out the “god he/she just gets me”. And in the very beginning it is true. But slowly, and surely, it brings up the deeper wounds to reveal how we don’t always just “get” each other. I still remember how we fought in the first two months, literally to the point that i know you thought about breaking up with me. But you know what happened two days ago? When we spoke about the gift giving equivocacy? I think that one conversation just showed how much we have matured. We could have easily gone and fought about it. But man, I am in awe of how we handled that. It’s not just the amount of time we have spent together that tells me what’s to come. It’s that one instance that set the platform for what we have built / are building. It just setup the segue so beautifully for us to have that discussion today too in terms of how we manage our time and balance our priorities today.

There are a few moments that are etched in my mind – You had that box of RnR biryani in you hand and you looked so damn pretty in that turquoise (or dark turquoisish!? I dunno colors arent my forte) kurti and you were smiling at me. Another moment – when you were laughing at me when I had to do that U-Turn in the conversation when you said you looked ugly in that picture and I almost incorrectly (seee? I said incorrectly) agreed and you just burst out laughing. Another moment – when we relived that second moment and we laughed our assess off.

There is just so much warmth in those moments. There’s joy. There’s happiness. There’s that sense of wholesomeness. It’s just… ughhhhhhhh i gotta come up with a whole new word for it. Actually i think the word I am looking for is – spring. It’s just that sense of renewal, of bloom, of life.

This is our spring baby.

Love Forever And Always,

XOXO,

A